The fragility of Trust

One of the most fragile elements of human relationships is Trust. It is more freewheeling, naughty and haughty than one can imagine. Perceptions manipulate trust all the time and sometimes trust is thrown out of the window and on other occasions, if the perceptions are pampered by the gift of love and understanding, Trust walks back in, restored, happy and elated. The people who are either effected or engrossed in all these whimsical ups and downs of life where one perception disturbs the relationship while the other may pamper or polish it, go into a spiral, from stress, eustress to being joyful and then back to confusion, chaos and multiple challenges of different dimensions.

The good news is that the element of awareness thinks and acts like the Buddha. Awareness wants a friendly equation with perception, so that Trust is not pulled in to a complex web of life. Awareness tells perception when the perception about someone is really negative, “become more of me and less of you”. When awareness starts the conversations of the self, perception melts away and turns into introspection and tells awareness, “Yes, maybe what I have been imagining is just my sensitive self. I need to give a second chance to the person who hurt me and just talk and share and perhaps curse but listen”. Trust, meanwhile sneaks in, settling down when awareness brings the aroma of acceptance. Perception becomes a good word once again because it sees the person and not few weird actions of that person.

It takes a while to build trust. It is not a perfect place to be. Yet, the journey towards rebuilding it can be easy and nice if we enhance our awareness, accept ourselves, our vulnerabilities, our misjudgments and realize that others are fighting their own battles of being human.

As a Happiness Coach, I help people enhance their awareness in rewiring their brain, through mindfulness , acceptance and giving people a “benefit of doubt” and they end up sharing how their personal or work lives were improved.